Why I love going to weddings

wedding-handsI love going to weddings. Really, I do. This particular type of human gathering has a lot of pomp and flourish that the world needs more. Sure, to many people it is an empty ritual. To others, it might seem like a waste of time. To me, it is a great occasion to get dressed up and participate in a ritual that is packed with meaning. Which ritual would you rather be part of? A celebration of a couple’s love or your daily ritual of waking up, taking a shower, putting on your clothes, eating breakfast, and heading to work? The latter is as much a ritual as the former although it’s not as satisfying. The truth is, humans are ritualistic animals and there’s a lot of value we can get from certain rituals. Weddings form a part of this. I have some personal issues with going to a wedding next month though :-) I’m a little overweight. Guess I need to pick up some solid advise to lose weight before it’s too late. Already found a way to lose weight fast but not sure if it’s what I want to do, it’s a bike trip in The Netherlands with this touring website. Anyway, here are the three reasons why I love the wedding ritual and can’t wait to attend more in the future.

Public affirmation of love
First and foremost, weddings are a public affirmation of a couple’s love. The reality of their love already exists on a personal level. However, by getting married, they let the world in on the secret. Moreover, this public pronouncement makes society and the government a partner in their love relationship. This is one of the things many critics of weddings miss. There is a social element in weddings which connect one married couple to all other married couples. There is a covenant between the couples and greater society and, for religious couples, the Deity. In other words, it’s one thing to be in love privately but its another for your love to connect to something higher and bigger than yourself. By getting married, your personal relationship gets the stamp of society and is protected by it at many levels, almost as protected as investing in gold as a savings option.

Reminder of romance in one’s life
Besides the meaning of a wedding to the people getting married, watching a wedding in person reminds me of the romance in my own life. The nervousness, the knowing looks, and the pomp and circumstance, all remind me that romance is important, and that it has value. Watching two happy people affirm their love reminds me of the importance of romance in my own life and how it makes everything else in my life better, shine brighter, and be more meaningful.

Family gathering and bonding
Finally, I love going to weddings because these occasions get family and friends to come out of the woodwork. We are all busy and oftentimes, we let life get the best of us. We get wrapped up in our schedules and we lose sight of what is important-our loved ones. Weddings force us to make an appearance and break out of our shells to reach out and reconnect.


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